Your riding style should be results-oriented. This should be related to getting the bike to steer better, having correct use of the throttle/brakes/gears, being smoother etc. How well you use these skills will determine how well you ride not just how fast you are. There are a lot of people who are fast but not safe.
What is fast and what is slow? Only you can make the judgment of “fast or slow”. Chances are the slower of two riders may not have had the same opportunities. Or they may simply not be capable of matching the other rider. Or their machines are not set up as well. So what! Faster does not necessarily mean "fast" and slower does not necessarily mean, "slow".
Do not try to make yourself do things that you are not comfortable with. We all have our own style and built in limits.
Try to push your limits without going over them. “If you have not practiced riding with a bit of fear, you will panic when presented with the unexpected” is a quote from the book ‘Total Control: High-Performance Street Riding Techniques’ by Lee Parks.
What is important is to a BETTER rider. Try some of the techniques in this book and see if they work for you.